THE THING KEEPING YOU FROM YOUR PURPOSE

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Popping in to remind you that your “purpose” isn’t about your DOING, it’s about your BEING. 

It’s less about doing the “right” thing and more about doing the aligned thing. But in order to know whether or not you’re aligned with the thing in front of you, you have to first ask yourself:

WHAT AM I TRYING TO ALIGN TO?? 

(yes, I know this isn't grammatically correct but it sounds better this way.)

Because THIS is the question that helps us differentiate goals from intentions. 

When we make GOALS, we tend to focus on ‘outcomes”. On having & getting things. Achievements. Proving. Random accomplishments to check off our list. But it’s exactly that–our getting, forcing & grasping–that ends up being the very thing that keeps us from our purpose. Being too laser-focused on the narrow, “WHAT” questions (What am I doing? What’s the goal?), instead of the deeper “WHYs”:

  • Why am I doing this?

  • Why does this even matter to me?

  • Why is this important to my unique life story & experience? 

And until we answer THESE questions, it will always feel like we’re on a never-ending hamster wheel, constantly going, striving, achieving…and yet somehow still feeling empty inside. 

Because the truth is, underneath all that effort, what we’re truly searching for is a deeper meaning that we’ve never even slowed down enough to find.

Yikes. 

But INTENTIONS, on the other hand?

Those are about our feelings. 

They’re about focusing on WHO we’re being in our lives–also known as our WHY–and letting that motivate & guide our behavior and decisions. About aligning ourselves with the energy we’re seeking to create…while ALSO keeping our eyes open for all of the miraculous ways that energy can show up BEYOND what we’ve scripted. 

Instead of boxing ourselves in with constricting, specific goals like,

  • Hit $250,000 in business revenue (but no actual plan for the money for who it will serve)

  • No sugar, no bread & eat vegan every day from now on (give yourself some GRACE)

  • Get engaged in 12 months (wait–you’re gonna put a timeframe on MARRIAGE?🥴)

Intentions guide us to dig deeper & access the underlying desire behind how we want to feel so we can make the feeling the focus…and then set our sights in that direction. So instead of starting with what I want to achieve, I start with who I want to BE, how I want to FEEL, and then create a roadmap from there. 

Intention setting is about moving away from being hyper-focused on the things we want to achieve & getting clear on how we want to show up in our lives, the energy we want to embody throughout the year, and using those breadcrumbs to create a vision that still leaves room for Spirit to do its thang.

This is a small but incredibly transformational shift that totally changes how you interact with your life. And it’s especially powerful if you happen to be like me–someone who grew up in high stress/pressure situations and is therefore COMPLETELY turned off by any strategy that encourages me to repeat these patterns as an adult. If this is you, this process will revolutionize how you move through your life. 

Because when we get too focused on getting the EXACT THING we want in the EXACT WAY & timeline we want it, we end up with tunnel vision ( 🚩🚩 not to mention dysregulated nervous systems & overworked adrenals). And while tunnel vision can be great for the times when we need extreme focus…it’s not great as a continuous life strategy for us as humans. 

Tunnel vision is the very thing that causes us to miss what’s really important, tryna be focused on what we think is important, but it doesn’t have to be this way. 

You don’t have to miss your purpose trying to find your purpose.

I promise, there is another way.